Our homes no longer give guidance

A lecturer at the Lagos State University (LASU), Dr. Khadijah Olaniyan-Shobowale, has urged parents to eliminate bad ideology and indoctrination from their homes.


The bad ideology, she said, was having negative effect on the society.

She spoke at a seminar organised by Lagos District of The Criterion (an association of Muslim women in business and professions).

According to her, diverse ideologies and indoctrination disunite family.

“The Muslim home is the unit of the society, whatever happens to the Muslim home will affect the society. The home is no longer there to provide the right guidance and identity needed to the children. Children are trust from Allah and every parent will surely give account on their wards. We are all running after what our children will become in life, leaving behind the proper understanding and practice of the deen, which will bring them closer to Allah,” she said.

Dr Olaniyan-Shobowale advised parents to propagate the teaching of Islam in their various homes and also participate in the training of their children.

“Nowadays, parents have left the training of their children to the Muslim schools. There is no education your child can get better than the one they get from the home. Let’s find time to dialogue with our children and know the group they are moving with. When they are being indoctrinated, dialogue with them and don’t push them away or throw them out of the house,” she said.

The Criterion Amirah, Alhaja Dhikratullah Matesun-Oshodi said the theme of the seminar: The Muslim Child in a Dynamic World, is centred on the rapid increase in divorce cases, abandonment and distance married couples.

She said: “Divorce usually occurs when couples mutually separated, thereby creating a single parent syndrome with its attendant effects on the children and the society at large”.

National Hajj Commission of Nigeria (NAHCON) Chairman Zikrullah Hassan, who chaired the event, urged couples to avoid conflict that would dissipate their marriage.

Couples, he said, should resolve their conflict so that their children would not be products of broken homes.

Hassan urged parents to raise their children with the right virtues to enable them to be useful in the society.

“Due to parental negligence, many children have left the comfort of their homes to join terrorist groups as a result of strange and competing ideologies,” he said.

Former Lagos State Deputy Governor Dr. Idiat Adebule urged parents to create time for the children and provide them with rich education beyond the four walls of the classroom.

“Parents should take it upon themselves to train their children, raising of an upright child lies in the home,” she said.

The Companion National Amir, Alhaji Thabit Sonaike said the issue of ideology and indoctrination was a major concern in the society.

“We are in a multi-religious society and even in Islam, we have multi-dimensional institution practising Islam. So, bringing together everybody under the same umbrella is a major task,” he said.

He said the Muslim Ummah of Southwest Nigeria (MUSWEN) was set up to curb bad ideologies and indoctrination.

“We have set up MUSWEN for the purpose of unity and orientating our people towards the same ideology of Islam. So that all of us can know that whatever we are doing we have to follow the teaching and saying of prophet Muhammad (SAW) and not just anybody telling us this is the way to leave our life”.